Things to Avoid Doing During a Divorce

Things to Avoid When Divorcing

A big mistake people make when divorcing is failing to get legal representation. Retaining the best legal representation is one of the smartest things to do to ensure that you will have a solid start to a new life and future. The attorneys of In law We Trust, P.A. know the intricacies of Florida laws, have the expertise to file accurate and binding agreements, are ready to take your case to trial if needed, and will fight for all you are entitled to. While we will do our part on the legal end, we have some other tips that can help you prepare and move more confidently through the divorce process.

A Few Do’s and Don’ts


  • Do – Realize that the children are an important part of this process. While it may be painful at first, children from well-adjusted divorced parents are better off in the long run than the children who are living with unhappy parents who stay together for “the sake of the kids.” Keep your behavior in check at all times to ensure you are being a good role model and representing positive values, no matter how challenging that may be for you to do during difficulties.

  • Don’t – Use your kids to punish or manipulate your spouse. Unfortunately, this does happen, even unintentionally. This will have negative impact on the relationship you have with your children now and in the future.

Legal and Financial Documents

  • Do – Make hard copies of all your financial and legal documents before your divorce proceedings begin and then make sure you keep them in a secure location.

  • Don’t – Rely on electronic copies. You don’t want to take the risk of losing information because you have lost a password, a password has changed, or you suddenly have been locked out of an on-line account by your spouse.

Spending Habits

  • Do – Try to be more conscious of your finances and downgrade your spending when possible. Your financial position will be changing and this is a good time to concentrate on living within a budget.

  • Don’t – Continue to stick to the same spending habits as before, deplete your assets just to try to keep up, or think that you can out-maneuver your spouse when it comes to money.

Social Media

  • Do – Be very careful about how you use your social media accounts. This might be a good time to step back a bit with regard to your own posting habits and as far your own frequency in viewing other people’s posts.

  • Don’t – Display your negative comments. It is possible things could be used against you in divorce proceedings. Remember that everything you say, do, post, tweet, text, or snap creates a footprint.


  • Do – Recognize this is a stressful time and the emotions you face are very real and understandable. It is all part of the healing and adjustment process. Be proactive about seeking professional counseling to help you through the emotional issues.

  • Don’t – Let your emotions dictate your actions or ever take them out on your spouse, children, pets, or personal property.

Family and Friends

  • Do – Understand that family and friends are good emotional and moral support. Take your time about who you talk to about your situation and when. You don’t want to suffer in silence, but you will want to give thought to how to best protect your privacy.

  • Don’t – Rely on family and friends for financial and legal advice. While people will want to share their experiences and offer opinions, it is important to realize that each situation is unique and that input will not necessarily apply to you. In fact, it may create further confusion and stress for you to be involved in these types of conversations.


  • Do – Give yourself time to reflect on who you really are and what you want to do with your future. Don’t demand that your current friends take sides. Respect and accept the fact that these relationships may change during and after your divorce.

  • Don’t – Jump into a new romantic relationship. If you already have, consider slowing down or even putting things on hold. With all of the changes going on in your life, you will need to focus on what is best for you.


  • Do – Understand that personal drama is costly in both time and money. Concentrating on hard facts with regard to your financial future and the best interest of the children will pay off in the long run.

  • Don’t – Focus so much on the little things that you forget what’s important. The more you and your spouse argue over issues or items, the more expensive, dramatic, and emotional the whole divorce process will be.

Meet With an Attorney at In Law We Trust, P.A.

The better prepared you are for divorce; the better off you will be at the end. The attorneys of In Law We Trust, P.A. will guide you through the process of divorce, counsel you about these issues and the many other issues you may face, while compassionately and aggressively ensuring that your rights and best interests are protected.

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