Is There Such a Thing as a Healthy Divorce?
No one gets married and expects that the marriage will fail. Unfortunately, divorce is not uncommon in today’s world and it is a very emotional event. However, it is possible to have a healthy breakup. If you are facing divorce, there are many things that you can do to make the split as smooth as possible.
Entering into a divorce can be difficult and very frustrating, and it should not be something you try to figure out on your own. One of your first steps should be to seek the counsel of the attorneys of In Law We Trust, P.A., who specialize in divorce for men. We will expertly navigate you through the divorce process. Talking things through first with an attorney will help you decide on how to best communicate your decision, create appropriate boundaries, and interact with your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
Keep in mind that cooperation and good communication can make divorce healthier for everyone involved. Choose your words to your spouse very wisely, whether they are spoken, written, emailed, or texted. Avoid blame, shortcomings, criticisms, and ambiguity. Agree to be civilized in all of your interactions and set aside any of your strong emotions.
It may seem difficult at times, but try to focus on divorce as a collaborative and respectful process. Adhering to that mindset will pay off in the long run. There will undoubtedly be aspects of the divorce that will cause disagreements and the need for negotiation, and that is why it is advisable to have the lawyers from In Law We Trust, P.A. on your side. We will make every effort to help avoid a contentious situation, but we will also be sure that first and foremost, your rights and interests are protected.
When Children are Involved
Don’t agonize over how divorce will affect the children. There is a lot you can do as a parent to help ease this transition for them. Do your very best to keep any conflict and adult topics away from the children, but have honest, age appropriate conversations with them about the changes that are occurring. Never say anything bad about the other parent to your children- no matter what! Try to give children a few weeks of notice before one spouse moves out or before moving them to a new home.
Remember – in almost all cases, children do better when they maintain close contact with both parents. Make sure you and your spouse come across as a strong parental unit and united front. Show that despite your separation, there is still unity when it comes to being their parents. Find resources, counseling services, or parent education programs that focus on improving the relationship between parents and their children and then put those strategies to work. This will help you, your spouse, and children to better cope during and after divorce. Realize that children are better off with divorced, happy parents than they are with parents who are unhappy and feel obligated to stay together.
Stay Positive as You Start a New Chapter
The changes brought on by separation and divorce can be overwhelming. This is a good time to really get to know yourself again. Look at the big picture and realize that you may not be the same person as you were when you first got married, and perhaps your aspirations and goals are different from what they once were. Now, more than ever, take care of yourself by staying physically healthy. Tap into your support network of friends and family, not just to vent to, but for activities, distractions, and to help you move forward. This may be a good time for you to try out new hobbies or get back involved with activities you enjoyed, but may have not done in a while. Understand and respect the fact that that your ex-spouse will need to be doing the same things to help them move forward as well.
Be as flexible and accommodating as is reasonable when it comes to your custody plan. With homework, friends’ birthday parties, school events, sports, and everything in between, always adhering to strict schedules for custody hours and days can sometimes become challenging. Communicate efficiently with your ex-partner, stay organized, and make sensible adjustments to schedules if warranted.
A New Start
Divorce can be tough, yes, but with the right attitude and the right legal firm on your side, you can look forward to a new beginning. The attorneys of in Law We Trust, P.A. specialize in the compassionate, but aggressive representation of husbands and fathers and we understand your point of view.
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