Record Keeping For Fathers During A Divorce | In Law Men Trust
It’s equally important to keep a journal or daily log to document any other interaction you have with your children as well as with their mother. Not only does this show you’re a responsible and well-organized parent, but you will also have an accurate log of dates and activities for quick reference that can be used to your advantage when determining child custody. While there might be a lot of activity and new territory for you during this time, we urge you to keep meticulous records for possible future use.
Many people work better and think clearer when they’re in a clean and organized workspace. Similarly, you will do better in your divorce if you use it as an opportunity to get organized. That begins and ends with record-keeping. So from the date that the cat is out of the bag, keep records of everything. Record conversations, or if you can’t do that, write down the details of interactions with your spouse with no embellishment immediately after the event. That way it’s fresh on your brain.
The thought that you’re getting organized sends several messages to your spouse: 1) You are taking the divorce seriously, and so should they. 2) You are removing emotions from the equation so any such appeal will not work on you; therefore, it’s best to start working through the divorce forms with you instead of actively operating against. 3) You are prepared, and they need to watch what they say and do. For all these reasons, you should be forthright about what you’re doing rather than trying to blindside them, courtroom-drama style.
Here are some tips to help you navigate, store, and organize records during this hard time.
- Be sure to also record in-person conversations.
- Regularly email copies of your records to your attorney and send a copy of the email to yourself. This will help show that you’ve been consistently keeping records over a certain period of time.
- Include dates and times for each of your entries and keep your entries to the point and as unbiased as possible.
- Save phone bills and document all of your phone calls and their durations. This includes calls to and from your children, ex-spouse/former partner, and lawyer.
- Track when you make child support payments as well as any other applicable payments, reimbursements, and related expenses—such as medical, dental, or transportation costs. Make copies of any checks and get a receipt for any payments made in cash.
- Record the times when you have your children with you, your activities, locations, etc. Include days and times when you dropped off and picked up your children as well as any days and times when visitation schedules are broken
- Embrace Technology: The smartphone in your purse or pocket gives you all the tools you need to record important conversations, keep financial records, and develop a parenting plan with your spouse. Make peace with technology if you haven’t, and you’ll find the organizational record-keeping process to be a breeze.
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At the Law Offices of John DeGirolamo, Esq., we understand the unique needs of men in divorce and related legal proceedings. We will work to protect your financial interests in divorce, child support, and alimony proceedings, and your parental rights in child custody and visitation matters.
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